I think I am going to put this on an index card and post it them around the house. These verses can carry us through every day life of marriage and parenting. This could be great to mediate on the start of every day. Let’s start today.
Hopefully as we get older we outgrow that but it’s not always the case. Businesses that I have worked for at times seemed like professional high school. We got paychecks, but the gossip, rumors and assumptions ran rampant. Even as I knew better to participate, I would find myself being sucked into the dark vortex. It would be an internal fight to rise above it.
“Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.”
It’s not easy. It takes practice. I need to practice this. Perhaps that’s why these verses jumped out at me. Hubby and I live in a town home development. There are committees that certain requests need to go through. We submitted a request months ago and approval still has not been granted. We think we are making a good faith effort to get the correct information and it seems to never end. Let’s just say words and tones of voice (on both sides) have not always been easy going and kind. I started praying for better tone and I am noticing a change in hubby and I which is good. I continue to pray for the other party. Oh, how the Bible is full off instruction and relevance still to this day. Amen.
I went on vacation, daughter is back in school and I need to get back on track. Of course, in 6 1/2 days I am having wrist surgery (I’m not counting down or anything) and will get thrown out of whack again, I guess. However, I need your help with a project I have been mulling over and jotting ideas down over the past few months.
One of my goals or bucket list items is to get published. The project I am working on is an e-book about Caring for Loved Ones with short or long term illnesses. Of course this may sound like a really broad topic and once I hear your stories, this one book could very well go into two or even three.
This project has been inspired by events in my own life over the past 3 years or so. Items I am looking for include:
- What resources helped you or your loved one with an illness or injury? (i.e. American Cancer Society, MDA, etc)
- What was the best type of help you received from friends, family?
- Did you have an experience where someone meant to help or say something encouraging, but it just came out all wrong? What was it?
- Was a sense of humor/laughter part of your treatment plan?
- How did your faith help/hurt your experience?
- What lessons did you learn from your experience?
This book is meant to compile the lessons I learned and I would love to hear about your lessons and hopefully we can help someone else going through a difficult time. Post your comments below.
Above are pictures of my Planner Pad in use. It has month at a view and weekly view. I usually don’t use the month views, the boxes are never big enough. But these are big enough for me to write in event and time. It is great for scheduling my part-time job, responsibilities at church and days off from school. The weekly view in this planner is fantastic. The top row I can sort out tasks by category: myself, house, scrapbooking, mom’s group, church, etc. The second row is daily tasks. I can move items from top row to second row day specific and I also write down daily household tasks I want to accomplish. The third bottom row has times for appointments. I think I may have found the perfect planner for me. I am thinking for next year of getting the slightly smaller version so it fits in all my purses.
What kind of planner do you use?
As I get older I am noticing that I have a harder time paying attention and for longer periods of time. There can be a couple of reasons: 1. getting older 2. technology. I have an iPhone and tablet, love facebook and love getting email. By having beeps and notices when you get a message or response, it compels you to keep checking. Which of course interferes with the ability to have a conversation with another human being and finish simple tasks. I do house paperwork at the desk with the computer. My other distraction is YouTube. That’s a whole other post.
I put a post it on the monitor that says, “I will complete one task at a time.” It’s pretty much re-training my brain. Sometimes I need to get a timer and set a limit; usually no more than 15 minutes. I have also started keeping a to-do list. This accomplishes two things: 1. I have written down everything I’d like to do so I don’t have to worry about forgetting it. 2. It helps to cross things off to feel a sense of accomplishment. There have been times when I needed to write down “get dressed” and “eat.” Those were times when my depression was not under control. It was something I learned in therapy. It might seem overly obvious or simple, but if you are having trouble focusing – have two lists. One list of daily “Must Do” and another for “Want To.” By seeing the “must dos” crossed off it propels you forward to the “want” and keep you on track.
I decided to try Planner Pad this year for the first time. It is 8 1/2 x 11 and lays perfectly flat. I used some of my scrapbooking stash and decorated the front of it. Doesn’t it look pretty?
Prayer works! I had a great appointment the other day with my hand doctor. After looking at the most recent MRI, we decided the best course of action was a steroid shot. The pain I have been experiencing is on the top part of my wrist or the dorsal area. He called that pain “noise.” The thinking is to quiet that “noise” and determine the source of the pain. While doing his examination he pressed on something called a pique tendon and I experienced pain. If the shot takes care of the dorsal pain and when I go back in a month, if that tendon area is still sore, that is our culprit and that can be taken care of surgically.
I am already feeling a huge relief from the dorsal pain, but still wear my wrist brace most of the day. I do not want to over use it or aggravate it. I am also being careful of that tendon spot. I do not want to make that worse either.
Regardless, I feel so much better and much more optimistic and have renewed faith that prayer works and my healing is truly underway. God works in His own way and timing.
I will keep you posted and my next entry will be more fun and easy going.