I think I am going to put this on an index card and post it them around the house. These verses can carry us through every day life of marriage and parenting. This could be great to mediate on the start of every day. Let’s start today.
“Oh Captain! My Captain!”
“Carpe Diem. Seize the day.”
“My best friend is a VC! This will NOT look good on my resume!!”
“Na nu Na nu.”
August 11, 2014 Robin Williams died. In his lifetime he was an alien, a homeless man on a quest, a Russian seeking freedom, a doctor, an army disc jockey, a genie and Peter Pan for goodness sake. His roles were as varied as the stream of consciousness that would leave his mouth. I hope Bravo rebroadcasts his episode of Inside the Actor’s Studio. They had five hours of material and one audience member had to be taken to the hospital with a hernia because she laughed so hard for so long.
For me, he will always be Mork. A lovable, zany, harmless alien from Ork that lands in Boulder, Colorado and befriends Mindy McConnell. Pam Dawber deserved countless Best Actress awards for performing opposite Robin and doing it wonderfully.
In my notebook where I wrote my rough draft of this post I went on writing about addiction and depression. There is so much that can be said on this topic. I’ll post my thoughts another time. Right now I am watching YouTube videos of Robin Williams and laughing and smiling.
Channeling Mork for a moment, I will give you my report (like Mork would give Orson a report). Depression and addiction are diseases not just mood swings or weak personal strength. They need to be treated by medical professionals and realize that there is no cure. Individuals learn to manage their illness on a day to day basis. Relapses are possible. So, family and friends need to be understanding and supportive and give hugs whenever possible. Laughter helps too.
Mork signing off.
Na nu Na nu
Watch this: Mama Mork, Papa Mindy
The last post I wrote was back in September 2013. I had successful wrist surgery. When my stitches were removed two weeks later I realized the constant daily pain I had for who knows how long was now gone. I did occupational therapy to regain strength in my wrist (my wrist was pretty weak). I graduated from OT right before Christmas 2013. I found myself back in the hand surgeons office in February 2014. Over Valentine’s Day weekend I re injured my left wrist. Sigh. Fortunately surgery was not necessary. I did visit OT again but this time for a wrist brace and some exercises to get my wrist back into shape. Apparently I have mid carpal instability. The tendons got stretched out from the injury and were not supporting my bones properly. So between wrist brace, exercises and awesome tape, my wrist is much better. I now know I am susceptible to such an injury again and I wear tape for extra support when doing activities that require it. I would wear the brace for extra heavy duty work, but hubby is fine doing that stuff without me so I do not have a relapse.
As time goes on I am aware of more aches and pains. The price for being 40 something and for not being as active as I should be. So I have been seeing a chiropractor which has helped tremendously. I am making a better effort at eating more healthy, drinking tons of water and doing exercises every week. One of the things I realized I was missing was writing. So I have been writing short pieces here and there that i will be adding to the blog soon. My creative juices are flowing again. I have learned a lot of lessons and am ready to share them.
I hope you will stay with me and I would love to hear what you think of them as they are posted.
Till then, take care, stay healthy and Happy 4th of July!
Hopefully as we get older we outgrow that but it’s not always the case. Businesses that I have worked for at times seemed like professional high school. We got paychecks, but the gossip, rumors and assumptions ran rampant. Even as I knew better to participate, I would find myself being sucked into the dark vortex. It would be an internal fight to rise above it.
“Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.”
It’s not easy. It takes practice. I need to practice this. Perhaps that’s why these verses jumped out at me. Hubby and I live in a town home development. There are committees that certain requests need to go through. We submitted a request months ago and approval still has not been granted. We think we are making a good faith effort to get the correct information and it seems to never end. Let’s just say words and tones of voice (on both sides) have not always been easy going and kind. I started praying for better tone and I am noticing a change in hubby and I which is good. I continue to pray for the other party. Oh, how the Bible is full off instruction and relevance still to this day. Amen.
I went on vacation, daughter is back in school and I need to get back on track. Of course, in 6 1/2 days I am having wrist surgery (I’m not counting down or anything) and will get thrown out of whack again, I guess. However, I need your help with a project I have been mulling over and jotting ideas down over the past few months.
One of my goals or bucket list items is to get published. The project I am working on is an e-book about Caring for Loved Ones with short or long term illnesses. Of course this may sound like a really broad topic and once I hear your stories, this one book could very well go into two or even three.
This project has been inspired by events in my own life over the past 3 years or so. Items I am looking for include:
- What resources helped you or your loved one with an illness or injury? (i.e. American Cancer Society, MDA, etc)
- What was the best type of help you received from friends, family?
- Did you have an experience where someone meant to help or say something encouraging, but it just came out all wrong? What was it?
- Was a sense of humor/laughter part of your treatment plan?
- How did your faith help/hurt your experience?
- What lessons did you learn from your experience?
This book is meant to compile the lessons I learned and I would love to hear about your lessons and hopefully we can help someone else going through a difficult time. Post your comments below.
Above are pictures of my Planner Pad in use. It has month at a view and weekly view. I usually don’t use the month views, the boxes are never big enough. But these are big enough for me to write in event and time. It is great for scheduling my part-time job, responsibilities at church and days off from school. The weekly view in this planner is fantastic. The top row I can sort out tasks by category: myself, house, scrapbooking, mom’s group, church, etc. The second row is daily tasks. I can move items from top row to second row day specific and I also write down daily household tasks I want to accomplish. The third bottom row has times for appointments. I think I may have found the perfect planner for me. I am thinking for next year of getting the slightly smaller version so it fits in all my purses.
What kind of planner do you use?
As I get older I am noticing that I have a harder time paying attention and for longer periods of time. There can be a couple of reasons: 1. getting older 2. technology. I have an iPhone and tablet, love facebook and love getting email. By having beeps and notices when you get a message or response, it compels you to keep checking. Which of course interferes with the ability to have a conversation with another human being and finish simple tasks. I do house paperwork at the desk with the computer. My other distraction is YouTube. That’s a whole other post.
I put a post it on the monitor that says, “I will complete one task at a time.” It’s pretty much re-training my brain. Sometimes I need to get a timer and set a limit; usually no more than 15 minutes. I have also started keeping a to-do list. This accomplishes two things: 1. I have written down everything I’d like to do so I don’t have to worry about forgetting it. 2. It helps to cross things off to feel a sense of accomplishment. There have been times when I needed to write down “get dressed” and “eat.” Those were times when my depression was not under control. It was something I learned in therapy. It might seem overly obvious or simple, but if you are having trouble focusing – have two lists. One list of daily “Must Do” and another for “Want To.” By seeing the “must dos” crossed off it propels you forward to the “want” and keep you on track.
I decided to try Planner Pad this year for the first time. It is 8 1/2 x 11 and lays perfectly flat. I used some of my scrapbooking stash and decorated the front of it. Doesn’t it look pretty?